To start with, let me try establishing some common understanding around the “circles of influence”.
A circle of influence is a set of factors, internal or external, (be it people, circumstances, activities, thoughts, beliefs, etc), that one directly or indirectly interacts with over a period of time; as a result, one would favorably or in unfavorably change directions.
Here’s a nice story I would like to share with you around the circles of influence.
One day, I was driving my car in a nice, clear sky, sunny day. I’m enjoying the amazingly cool breeze, such a beautiful day it is, and I decide I‘m going to enjoy it fully.
As I’m enjoying the spectacular whether while driving my convertible coupe, one of my friends, whom I trust & like talking and listening to, calls me up and asks if I’m interested to pass by to pick her up, and so I do.
As I drive while enjoying the company, my friend suggests having a cup of coffee on the way. Although I was not planning for it, I accept the offer and think to my self that it’s ok, it’s a nice offer that won’t seriously put me behind schedule, and the fact that my friend is buying me coffee, that made it more tempting, so why not. While enjoying the coffee and the conversation, I get a call from my spouse who asks me to pick up something from the store on the way home. Of course you know I can’t say no to that, right? So I happily confirm.
On the way, I remember that today is my best friend’s birthday and I can’t but get him something, nothing fancy though, but may be a nice birthday card would do, and so I do.
As we stop over to pick up the card, I notice that I had a very important mail that I needed to send early morning today, but I didn’t. Now I missed it, I must rush home, pick it up and send it soonest I can, and so I do…
That day, I ended up doing all sorts of stuff, but enjoying the beautiful day I wanted to enjoy.
I was faced with a set of influencers that made me change directions, mostly unfavorably in this case.
But one important influencer that made things evolve the way they did, that is my acceptance.
I accepted choosing these influencers, that ended up “steering my wheel” for the day, and I just followed the their command. And I ended up paying the price for something I was not planning to pay for.
Carefully choosing our influencers can make a whole difference in our life, taking us to destinations we desire to go.
When choosing our influencers, we choose the kind of performance & productivity we want to have.
When we consciously choose who we want to be interacting with and how, and when choosing what influencers we want to interact with & how, we then choose our destination.
Three main tactics that help us effectively lead the journey, and better manager our circles of influence, to properly maneuver our “steering wheel”:
– Identify your circles of influence:
Who are we talking to and interacting with?, what we like or dislike about them?, what events are surrounding us and what level of influence & control do we have over them? These are important questions to keep in mind to help us identify our influencers.
– Understand the influence of your circles on you:
Create a conscious awareness of the impact of your surrounding circles of influence on you and how you feel about them. Does your mood change to the better or to the worse? How does your day change when you interact with someone in particular?
– Consciously choose your circles of influence and how to interact with them:
Once you identify your circles and understand their impact on you, actively and effectively choose what circles of influence you want to have around you and how you want to interact with them. For those you may not have control over to keep or reject, always remember that you still have control to choose how you want to interact with them.
Carefully choose your circles of influence and, make a difference in your life and those around you.